Friday, June 18, 2010

Friday Five: Running Late

Jan says: "As I opened up my computer this morning, I directly went to my blog and RevGals to see what the newest Friday Five would be! Nothing was here, which seemed odd. Then I went to look at the calendar and counted the Fridays, and it is the THIRD Friday! How did that happen so quickly? It's my turn, so here's a quickie:"

1. Do you tend to be a late person or one who is timely, arriving on time or earlier? I have always been a pretty "on-time" person, usually arriving just before or at the appointed time. This has all changed since I started hanging out with my now husband, also known as "the early guy." I got a hint of his stance on the time thing when he arrived for our second date when I was barely out of the shower. At that time I thought maybe it was just because he was so eager to see me. But I soon found that this is a life long pattern. My beloved wants to be early for everything. And thus it is, and we are.

2. Have you forgotten anything of importance lately? If I have, I can't remember it !

3. Is procrastination your inclination? Why or why not? Only for big and overwhelming projects. Then I have to do a certain amount to build the requisite tension. It's almost like my little ritual. Wait....wait...wait...ok, I'm tense enough now that I can have my (also required) meltdown about how it's all too much and I can't do it and it will never get done....and then I settle in and produce. Yep all very predicable. I figured this out in grad school to the point that I actually scheduled the meltdown on the project timeline! It has to do with anxiety over my ability to do it "well enough" which gradually I am chipping away at in the dance with the inner critics.

4. Do you like schedules or spontaneity? Which works best for you? Looking at #3...it appears that I am a bit of scheduler..."Friday, 10:00-10:15-meltdown" Yeah.....not too spontaneous. But on the other hand, since R came along, I'm getting more playful and that does involve some ability to just let schedules fly sometimes...so again, both/and.

5. How do you stay on track with the various things you need to, people you must meet, etc., etc.? I used to have a big paper planner book, now I have a phone calendar. The line is "if it's not in the phone, it doesn't happen." And the great advantage of the phone over the paper, besides the fact that it's a lot smaller to tote around....it has an ALARM!

BONUS: Whatever comes to mind about forgetfulness or lateness. It really does irritate me when people just don't show up for stuff or are really late for no good reason, especially when they are chronic about it. There are some people in my life who have this issue and I find I am kind of chronically ornery with them about it. It feels disrespectful and uncaring and like they just don't give a rat's patoot about me or whom or whatever we are all engaged in together. And I don't want to hear their dreary excuses. The rest of us managed to get up, on the bus, in the car, through the traffic, whatever.....get over it! There....got that off my chest...thanks for listening.

9 comments:

Mary Beth said...

You tell 'em!!! :)

Jan said...

I have that same irritation about people not showing up or calling! So glad you put that out there.

I'm glad you were early in posting today!

Sally said...

"It has to do with anxiety over my ability to do it "well enough" which gradually I am chipping away at in the dance with the inner critics"- Oh yes me too!

Mompriest said...

My daughter is like that, chronically late. After years of trying to get her to change we adapted by giving her an earlier arrival time than needed - usually by 30 minutes. Also, her friends do the same thing....and now she does the same thing - tell her self she has to be someplace 30 minutes before she does...thus she is "on time"....for her it is less about not caring and more about just who she is. sigh


that's a long way of saying, I hear you!!

Purple said...

Having a gentle laugh with #1...love it.

Kathrynzj said...

Your bonus answer echoes my thoughts exactly.

On a side note, it is an absolute joy to 'see' you so happy.

Jayne said...

I've tried using the "if it's not on the phone..." line. All it got me was someone grabbing my phone and adding things to the schedule so I'd remember next time!

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Keep in contact. Good Luck..................................................

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